Romance in a relationship is important, not just on Valentine鈥檚 Day but everyday, says registered psychotherapist John Taylor.
Taylor, counsellor at Izumi Therapy in Nanaimo, said making time for a partner is probably the healthiest thing couples can do for their relationship and well-being.
鈥淲e talk about the importance of eating healthy and exercising but there鈥檚 some research that says 15 minutes of working on your relationship a day would do more for your cardiovascular health than an hour of aerobic activity at the gym because you get rid of all the stress hormones that are so bad for you,鈥� Taylor said.
Taylor added that romance is something that people should add everyday to their relationship.
鈥淎dd as much as you can,鈥� he said.
Taylor said every positive act couples do for each other in a relationship is romance.
鈥淭he difference between a romantic relationship and a friendship is that you realize and recognize your partners vulnerabilities and what they need to fill them up and you kind of go that extra level to meet those,鈥� he said.
According to the online blog, , romantic relationships can be a ticket to good health.
In a post about the connection between , the author writes that there are chemical processes in the brain that affect how we feel. When we鈥檙e with a significant other, the body releases hormones, like oxytocin and dopamine, that signal feelings of trust, pleasure, and reward.
It states that 鈥淚n one study, researchers found people鈥檚 blood pressure was lower when they were with a romantic partner than when they were interacting with anyone else.鈥�
Taylor said one of the best ways to strengthen an emotional connection with a partner is to be an empathetic listener.
鈥淚f your partner gets home and says 鈥業 can鈥檛 believe my boss yelled at me, I was five minutes late for work.鈥� You don鈥檛 say, 鈥榳ell of course you were late you didn鈥檛 get up.鈥� You have empathy and say 鈥榯hat鈥檚 really tough tell me about it,鈥欌�� he said.
If the emotional stuff is working well, Taylor said other aspects in a relationship become easier. He said it鈥檚 important to have both sexual and non-sexual connections but that an emotional component should come first.
Valentine鈥檚 Day can be a day for couples to be extra romantic, but Taylor said it can also be a difficult day for couples who have little romance in their relationships.
鈥淭he expectation is too unrealistic for the day to fix it,鈥� he said. 鈥淎 good relationship means the job is important and the kids are important but we鈥檙e important too. The importance of a couple putting [making time for each other] in their schedule and making time everyday is just as important as getting to work on time,鈥� Taylor said.
