Bullying is a power struggle in which the bully uses physical or psychological means of intimidation over someone they perceive to be weaker.Bullying is abuse and, said Shane Rahn, it occurs at home, at school and in the home.Rahn, owner of Rahn鈥檚 Black Belt Academy, has teamed up with Judi Vankevich, aka The Manners Lady, to help 91原创鈥檚 youth to say No to bullying and Yes to respect.鈥淲e want to equip our kids, teens and adults with the skills and attitudes that are vital to say 鈥渘o鈥� to the bully and say 鈥測es鈥� to confidence, courtesy and respect,鈥� Rahn said.The pair are using the power of pink to convey their message that bullying is unacceptable and must not be tolerated. Pink 鈥淪ay 鈥楴o鈥� to Bullying鈥� T-shirts are available at Rahn鈥檚 Black Belt Academy, which is located at the rear of 20211 56 Ave.In tandem with Pink Shirt Day today, Rahn is offering a free month of confidence, respect and martial arts training. Vankevich has also joined forces with the B.C. Lions in the provincial gang prevention program, going into schools to help the students learn the skills to say 鈥榥o鈥� to gangs, bullies and crime. This leadership program has developed into her new anti-bullying/anti-crime leadership program called, Stand Up! Speak Out! for teens, middle schools and elementary schools. 鈥淧eople around us are hurting and many feel very alone,鈥� Vankevich said. 鈥淲e want to teach young people the attitudes, words and actions of respect, kindness and empathy that build bridges of friendship rather than walls of anger and distrust.  It鈥檚 our manners and character.鈥漅ahn, a fifth degree black belt, commented that children need to have the confidence that comes with being prepared to stand up and face a bully. 鈥淭hat鈥檚 the purpose of learning self-defense,鈥� he said. 鈥淲e want every student to know how to respond wisely and safely when threatened by unhealthy peer pressure. We want them to know that they can make a difference,鈥� Rahn said.Speaking as a mother of three, Vankevich shared her thoughts about how parents can best convey the anti-bullying message to their children:鈥淲hen I was younger, my mother told me to imagine that everyone we meet is wearing a giant invisible sign that says, 鈥楳ake Me Feel Special!鈥�  You never now what鈥檚 going on in people鈥檚 lives 鈥� who鈥檚 hurting, lonely, sick, their spouse just lost their job or got cancer 鈥� so don鈥檛 judge people. 鈥淛ust accept them the way they are and try to bring a little sunshine into their lives and think about how you can make them feel special.鈥�